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shared beliefs, shared values, common
purpose, a specific point of view about
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the world, or a problem or an
opportunity within the world. These are
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foundational to an excellent employee
experience and to an excellent customer
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experience. They bring us together,
they bind us together, and there are so
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many ways to express this P O. V or
point of view. One way I was able to do
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that was through a TX presentation. I
enjoyed the privilege a few years back
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of presenting at the inaugural TX U. C.
C s. That's the University of Colorado,
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Colorado Springs. It's the local campus
of the C. U system in Colorado Springs,
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where Bom Bom is headquartered. Where I
live with my wife and son and you, CCS
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is also where I earned my MBA. This
talk gathered a lot of the work that I
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had done in the years leading up to it,
and it was incredibly helpful to the
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start of Re Humanize your business, a
book that I co authored with my long
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time friend and team member Steve
Personally. If you're a regular
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listener to the customer Experience
podcast and the C X series on B two B
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growth. You know, we're pretty pro
human, and many of the conversations
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are human centered, and this Ted X talk
is no different. I hope you enjoy it.
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Now we have Ethan Butte. Things got his
own transport as well is the VP of
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content and communications. That bomb
bomb has a background in and passion
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for grand strategy content of
communications. For 14 years, he
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directed the marketing efforts for
local broadcast television stations and
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websites in Chicago, Grand Rapids and
Colorado Springs. With Bom Bom, he
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helps people use simple videos to
communicate more effectively to go
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relationships and to grow their
businesses. Here's a B A from the
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University of Michigan, M B A from the
University of Colorado, Colorado
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Springs. He's a happy husband and
father. Please welcome Ethan.
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So this is an absolute privilege to
share this room in this evening with
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all of you. I'm gonna start with a few
questions, and I really need you. Just
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shout out your answer. When you have
that, I need to be able to hear you.
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And don't worry, your neighbor is not
going to judge you about it. First
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question. It's about connection and
communication in terms of connecting
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and communicating with other people.
Are you better in a typed out text
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email or are you better on the phone
phone immediately? We all know we're
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better on the phone. You have a lot
more give and take a better feedback
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loop. We've got our voice tone pays
personality. Just a lot more
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information to work with its better
piece of communication now. Similar
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question. Different choices. Are you
better on the phone or are you better
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in person in person? We're all better
in person because that feedback loop is
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now taken up another level. We have all
the vocal elements, but we also have
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face posture, body language, all this
rich, nonverbal communication that our
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brains are wired to receive from one
another or fellow human beings or
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social creatures or veteran person. We
know it right away because you answered
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immediately. Now think about your own
personal and professional success in
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your own life. Satisfaction right,
flourishing, your own personal human
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flourishing personally and
professionally. Are you getting
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together with people as often as you
need or want to in person? No,
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absolutely not. Not even close. So few
of us are not a lot of reasons. A lot
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of excuses. I think it comes down to
two main things. Time and distance,
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time and distance conspired to keep us
apart. But we need to get together in
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person because that's how we connect
and communicate most effectively, build
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relationships and flourishes
individuals so that we're gonna be
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talking about here, why we need to get
face to face and how to overcome time
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and distance as things that keep us
apart. Now some of what I want to share
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with you tonight is informed and
inspired by a really great opinion
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piece. I read The New York Times last
February, and in it the writer Stephen
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March talked about just gross abuses of
other human beings that occur as a
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consequence of not having to face them
of not having to look them in the eye
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talked hiding behind that cloak of
digital anonymity. I'm talking about
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cyberbullying, Internet trolling, flame
wars and comments, threats and all of
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that same things and doing things that
you would never say if I had to look
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you in the eye. I've never say that to
you in person, but if I can hide that
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way I might do those things, and I'm
gonna take in a different direction
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than that. But I am going to start with
my favorite line from his piece, which
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is this as a communication and exchange
come at a remove. The flight back to
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the face takes on a new urgency as
communication and exchange come at a
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remove. Think about all those messages
you're sending all day long. Every time
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you click. Send these are some of your
most important message is your most
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valuable messages. In a lot of cases,
you have a lot riding on the outcomes
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of these messages being effective. And
yet you continue to entrust those two
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forms of communication short on
personality and short on clarity. I'm
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talking about all your type out emails,
your text messages. Even so, much of
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our social media is all faceless
digital communication. It's the same
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black text on the same white spring
with a little emoticon punched in.
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Sometimes why do we do that? To make it
more clear what we meant. Is he serious,
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or is he joking, right? We need to add
some clarity. We do it sometimes to add
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a little personality or a little bit of
fun. Frankly, we use it as an
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substitute for the absent human face.
And of course, it has not always been
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this way. Human beings have been
speaking to one another. We've had
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spoken communication as a species with
one another for 150,000 years. I've
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seen estimates that are much higher,
but conservative decision maker. So I'm
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gonna go with 150,000 years. And of
course, if you think about it almost
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that entire time, it's been exclusively
face to face. It's only been in the
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past few generations that we've been
able to transmit our voices and
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transmit our faces through technology,
and certainly only in the last couple
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of decades that we've been able to rely
on some of the space faceless digital
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communication. Meanwhile, that's
150,000 years. Meanwhile, how long have
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we been writing?
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5000 years, 1/30 of the amount of time.
If this is all the time, we've been
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speaking to one another almost
exclusively face to face. This is how
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long we've been writing so 3% of the
time, it's not as natural to us. It's
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not as fundamentally human, and frankly,
most of us aren't period to add it.
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Alright, we're not. It's a difficult
feel. The master takes a lot of time
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and effort energy and some of you in
the room are probably very good writers.
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But most of us, on average, are not.
And so what we're left with is messages
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that leave us sometimes misled and
misunderstood. And we can do better
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than that. Speaking of misunderstanding,
have you ever heard or read? 93% of
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your communication is nonverbal or in
terms of the words that you use, they
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only add 7% of the meaning to your
communication. Some of you have it. So
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that's a common misinterpretation of
the work of U. C L. A psychologist,
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Albert Arabian, who published UH
several decades ago the 7 38 55 rule of
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communication. And he wasn't trying to,
uh, to do what people often try to say
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that has worked in you simply trying to
quantify the positive emotional affect
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of our words, our voices and our faces.
7 38 55. That's where the 93 comes from,
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and even when it's taken for exactly
what it's intended. Their number of
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flaws with the work, Um, but the one
positive attribute of it is that people
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continue to use it, even if they misuse
it. And the reason I don't mind it is
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that it keeps top of mind something
really important, which is how we say
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something has a significant impact on
how effective the communication is, how
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we say something with our voices and
how we say something with our faces
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contribute to a massive amount of value.
Whether or not it's 93 doesn't matter.
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It adds a massive amount of value to
whether our message is understood or
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whether our messages liked whether it
produces the outcome that we hope for
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right. And so I don't know that the 93
is really all that far off. In fact,
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the face has a language. All of its own
human facial expression of emotion is
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both universal, and it's an eight. It's
universal. There's a really rich body
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of research here around, uh, facial
expression of emotion. We're talking,
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of course, about different researchers
at different institutions in different
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universities, on different continents,
in different countries and different
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cities, different cultures, different
decades. These studies span obviously
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involves different participants,
different methodologies. And despite
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all these differences, this body of
research points very often to one
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conclusion, which is seven human
emotions express the exact same way
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through our faces, across societies,
across culture. Across time, we all do
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it the same way, and that's my son. And
some of those expressions are
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nonstandard. So it's not just our
ability to express these emotions
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through our faces, right to write these
emotions to our faces. Also, of course,
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our ability to read them and to
recognize them on other people and to
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understand them. And we do it
automatically and instantly without
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ever thinking about it. It's again.
It's a language all its own. So it's
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universal instant. It's innate to us.
We can all do it from infancy, and it
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has not learned behavior. One of the
studies that I looked at had blind and
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sighted people, and they looked at the
way they were expressing emotions
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through their faces. And from a
statistical standpoint, it's identical.
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So it's not a cease a mimic everything.
Our faces have their own language and
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its innate to the human experience, and
of course, the eyes have a massive
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amount of contribution to at facial
language that we have one place where
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French phenomenology and contemporary
neuroscience agreed, and there are not
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very many is hero, and awareness of the
self is preceded by recognition of the
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other. That's to say, I know myself as
a human being only after and only
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through the process of looking you in
the eye and recognizing you first as a
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human being. And in that moment of
sheer humanity and connection, there's
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kinship, Bill, right? And of course,
kinship is the spark of empathy, the
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moral impulse, ethical impulse. One of
my very favorite podcast is on being
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with Krista Tippett. And she had a
conversation with US Congressman John
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Lewis from Georgia, who is also a civil
rights leader. And he was explaining
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one of the key teachings of young men
and women as they were preparing to go
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out for nonviolent protest during the
civil rights era. And this teaching was
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to maintain eye contact and smile, no
matter what. Verbal assault, physical
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assault someone spits upon, you try to
maintain eye contact and smile to that
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person. Why? To create that moment of
human connection through the eyes to
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hopefully say to that person. You may
be doing whatever you're doing to me,
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but I am a human being and hopefully
create that moment of empathy and
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defuse the situation. Naturally. If the
face and the eyes are tied to, uh,
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empathy and ethics, it's also tied to
justice. That's the the confrontation
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clause in the Sixth Amendment of the
United States Constitution, which of
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course, takes root 2000 years earlier
in Roman courts, where no case would
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advance for consideration prior to the
victim and the accused meeting face to
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face. So you knew it intuitively, you
said it emphatically. I invest in
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person. I'm not getting in person often
enough, and we need to overcome this.
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We need to make that right back to the
face. We need to make this a commitment
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in our lives, because through this we
connect and communicate most
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effectively. We build relationships
more effectively and relationships. I
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think I know I feel it. I think you
feel it too. Relationships are where
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all of our success comes from. Our
personal and professional success and
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life satisfaction come through directly
and indirectly our respond. Our
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relationships with other people. And so
the first way I propose that we
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overcome time and distance, which are
the things that he was an art is sheer
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force of will. Simply get it done right.
It's time prioritizing other things
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over it. Take Tuesday afternoon,
canceled the appointments and go see
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him or go visit her or go out and
connect with them. Just get it done.
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They set up as a priority. We can do
this. We have control over our own
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lives. You might have to make some
sacrifices when you do that, but I
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promise you won't be sorry if you do.
One of the very best things I've ever
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read on the Internet was written by
Kerry Egan, and at the time she was a
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Harvard divinity student. She was also
a student chaplain and a hospice
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program. Of course, it's a consequence
of network. She spoke with a lot of
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people as they prepared to die, and she,
of course, did a lot of listening to
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people in these moments, when they're
reflecting and reaching for meaning and
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purpose and trying to, you know, put
together all these things that they've
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experienced, and so she wrote about
what we talk about as we prepare to die,
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and it's pretty much exactly what you
think. It's not about the money or how
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many widgets we sold in our career.
It's about who we sold those widgets to
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and we sold those widgets with. It's
not about the house or the fancy car we
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talked about was along for the ride and
who was waiting for us at the
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destination. We don't even talk about
our religion or it's deity or its
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tenants. We talk about. We practiced
that religion with and through whom the
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deity and its tenants became manifest.
We talk about people. We talk about
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relationships. We talked about family.
We talk about kinship. We talked about
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a lot of these are the things that
matter, and you know this, as I say,
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you know that it's true. We all know it
intuitively, and so I promise that if
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you make that commitment to get face to
face with people, you won't regret it.
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No matter what, you have to cancel
unless it's other people don't do that,
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okay? And even with your best
intentions, right, you're all motivated
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now and it's like I think I'm gonna go.
I'm gonna get that done right. You're
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still gonna come up short. You're gonna
come up short because the other thing
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is getting away or this is the positive
side of that. You're going to do it and
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it's going to be so intrinsically
valuable to you. And it's going to
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reward you so much that you're gonna
want even more, and you're gonna come
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up short in that way. And so in those
cases, I encourage you to be there in
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person when you can't be there in
person, through video. And when I say
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video, I'm not talking about scripted
videos and edited videos and produced
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videos or any of that. I'm talking
about simple face to face communication.
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I'm talking about relationships through
video, and you already have what you
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need to get started. It's that webcam
that's built into your laptop by it's
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already in there, or it's in your
monitor. Or you can plug it into the
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side of your computer by USB, and it's
very inexpensive and easy to do in a
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sufficient quality. Is that little dot
that's in your laptop. It's a camera.
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You should use it right guard set phone
you've got right now in your purse or
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your pocket. What does that phone have?
What's one of its key features? A
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camera, of course. And every time you
get a new phone, what does it have in
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it? A better camera. Why do they do
that? She's use it right? So you feel
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better about how you look when you're
sharing photos and videos of yourself
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and other people that matter to you in
your life. So you have the equipment
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that you need to get started. And just
as cameras are a key point of
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conference competition for the
smartphone manufacturers, so to our
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video features for the social networks
Facebook, Twitter, instagram, Snapchat,
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all rolling out video features, always
upgrading the video features. Right now
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it's all about live video. They want
you sharing live video with other
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people in your world and your personal
network and your family noise sharing,
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live video. And, of course, live video
is what you long had available.
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Microsoft gives you Skype. Google gives
you hang out. Apple gives you face time.
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These are free tools. And guess what?
It's connected to the device that's
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connected to the Internet net that can
get you face to face with anyone,
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anywhere, anytime, as long as you and
one or more other people have a device
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and the Internet connection, we have
the free software you can get face to
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face with anyone in the world anytime.
And in that way we completely eliminate
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distance, right, so distance is no
longer an issue. But we still have time.
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Thank you, Skype it to now. I'm not
available till four. Sorry, I can't
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before. How about next Tuesday? Right.
We've all done that dance, so time
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continues to be an issue. In that
scenario, I encourage you to think
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about recording and sending simple
videos, and that's what we do it along.
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Where? Software company in downtown
Colorado Springs. To make it really
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easy to record and send simple video
messages, typically an email just to
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help get you face to face with more
people more often. And there's an a
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synchronicity there I recorded. When
it's convenient for me, I send it up to
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four people and she opens it
immediately. He opens it five minutes
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later. He opens up five hours later,
and that guy in the back five days.
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What is he doing? The navigation. So
there's an a synchronicity there, so
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time and distance, then, are not the
same issue. But when each one of those
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people opens that message up, the
experience me in person, it's like I'm
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there with them. I hear it all the time.
Every relationships will have our
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customers, and one of the things that
they describe very frequently to me is
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a phenomenon called prep iniquity. Now
they don't use the word for pink we
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when they describe it, they all used to
throw out words. But for equity is a
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psychological proximity built through
frequency and familiarity of exposure.
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So people feel psychologically
proximate to you when you get face to
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face with them. More often. It's a
nearness, and it's again independent,
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completely a physical proximity. I can
feel connected to you. I can feel
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closer to you as a consequence of
experiencing experiencing you in person
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more often. We had a research project
in the field with a team from Harvard
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Business School last month, and as the
lead researcher was preparing the study,
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trying to figure out what he wanted to
do with video email versus text and
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email. What do you want to get at, uh,
a gentleman named Andrew Brodsky, A
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doctoral candidate there at Harvard. Um,
he thought would be really helpful in
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designing the study and choosing the
instruments and the methodology and all
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that to speak with. Some of our
customers first started rounding up a
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couple dozen names and numbers of
people that they'd be happy to talk
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with him and he had some of those
conversations. And then we got back
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together and I said, Andrew, what have
you learned? And he showed a number of
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things with me. But there were two key
things that so that one was prepping
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equity piece, which didn't surprise
either one of us. We expected to hear.
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I kind of seated that with him. I said
something. I hear a lot something else
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so that he heard that I had not heard
that to me was very interesting. And in
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a way very beautiful was that it's not
just the recipient that feels closer to
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the center. It's also the center
feeling closer to the recipient, he
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said a number of people told him I feel
closer to my past clients or to my
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friends when I reach out to them in
this more personal way, it's really
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interesting to me. I hadn't thought
about it, I guess when I reflected, I
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may be an experienced the same thing,
but to have him here from a number of
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people made me think about the process
of looking the camera and the lens and
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talking to you trying to convey in the
empathy I have for your situation,
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offer you any value, whatever it is
that I'm reaching out to you out
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through that communication. The process
of looking in that lens, conjuring you
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in my mind and speaking to you as it if
I'm there with you in person, has a
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significant impact on me as well. I
feel closer to the people that I'm
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working with and people that I want to
work with, people that are family with
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and people that I'm friends with. I
feel closer to you as a consequence of
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that practice as well. It's a really
interesting thing that made me think
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about what we're normalizing every
single day. What's normal in your
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communication patterns, what's
appropriate, what standards are you
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setting? What expectations are you
setting of yourself and of other people
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that are they sufficiently human? Are
they sufficiently full of personality
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and clarity? Are you being your best
self? Are you producing your own
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flourishing through your communication?
So I just want to leave you with this
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idea.
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You're gonna hit, send seen and often
because we do it all the time. But I
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want you to think the next time you're
about to hit send Would it be better if
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I said it in person?
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