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You're listening to be tob growth,
a daily podcast for B TOB leaders.
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We've interviewed names you've probably heard before, like Gary Vander truck and Simon
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Senek, but you've probably never heard
from the majority of our guests. That's
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because the bulk of our interviews aren't
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our guests are in the trenches leading
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they're experimenting with tactics, they're building
the fastest growing BTB companies in the
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world. My name is James Carberry. I'm the founder of sweet fish media,
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a podcast agency for BB brands,
and I'm also one of the cohosts
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of this show. When we're not
interviewing sales and marketing leaders, you'll hear
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stories from behind the scenes of our
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downs of our journey as we attempt
to take over the world. Just getting
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well, maybe let's get into the
show. Welcome back to beb growth.
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I am your host for today's episode, Nikki Ivy, with sweet fish media.
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Today it's part of our leadership series. We're going to be talking to
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Garen Hess, who is founder and
CEO of consensus. Scar, and how
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you doing day now? Doing Great. Thanks, Nikkie. It's great to
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be with you. Good. I'm
so glad you came to talk to us.
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Like I said, as part of
the leadership series we're going to be
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focusing on a couple concepts. Write
the concept of rewriting reality and intentional selfdelusion.
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Super Jest to have you dig those
for us. But before we do,
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before we get into all of that, I'd love it if you would
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just give us a little bit of
background on yourself and what you and the
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folks that consensus are up to these
days. Yeah, absolutely so. Consensus
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as a software startup that helps pre
sales teams and other software companies, meaning
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sales engineers, scale their pre cells
function, which is through the use of
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interactive video demos. So our software
helps sales engineers create these demos and then
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sales people send them out and track
engagement. It's really to help equip the
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prospects of your target organization to sell
for you inside their organization. So,
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in a nutshell, it's we're all
about interactive demo automation. I love it.
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Yeah, was just actually talking to
a woman this morning about that.
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The way that we all know it
by this point, that we're looking at
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buying teens versus individuals. Oh Yeah, and our organization that just done some
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research around the fact that, you
know, while, yes, we're moving
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toward, you know, enabling folks
to do more and get more information on
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their buying journey digitally, one of
the best things we can do to remove
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friction. Is recognized that we have
to facilitate those internal conversations, and so
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it sounds like that's awesome of the
work that you guys are doing. So
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that's exciting. Um. But today, today we're going to be talking about
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those leadership concepts that I mentioned.
So just to get started, I'll have
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you go ahead and just defy the
terms for us here. What is meant
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by? I think I know what
rewriting reality is, but talk of talk
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to us about intentional selfdelusion and then
have those things work together. Yeah,
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I mean, and a lot of
ways they're just descriptions of the same thing,
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but one is a little bit more
extreme. So you know, as
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leaders, were constantly running into obstacles
and setbacks and everybody's looking to us and
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we set the tone both from operational
standpoint and productivity standpoint, but also from
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an emotional and emotional standpoint. And
so the big question is one of the
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things I've been working on, I
guess, over the last couple of years,
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is just how to deal with negative
emotion when you're a leader, because
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nobody really wants you to stand up
in a team meeting and say, you
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know, I feel depressed today.
Is anyone else want to be depressed with
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me? And so I started thinking
about this concept when i Read Ben Horrowitz's
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book the hard thing, about hard
things, and he has a section in
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there called where he calls it managing
your own psychology and he argues that it's
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the most important thing that an Nentrepentur
can do. And I wasn't sure what
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I thought of that when when he
said that, but the more that I've
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thought about it, the more I
think that's true because, like Elon Musk,
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want you know, famously said,
running us a startup is like eating
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glass and there's just so many negative
experiences that you have, even though you
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know the American pop culture makes it
out to be that it's this amazing experience,
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and it is an amazing experience,
but it seems like it's just everybody
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wants to be an entrepentr because it's
so glamorous. Well, in reality it's
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a lot of ups and downs and
many for many months, sometimes it's just
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down after down and you've got to
figure out how to get through that.
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And so I started thinking about this
and came across this concept of rewriting reality.
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And the reason I came up with
this concept of intentional self delusion is
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because I heard one CEO basically say
that. He says I not only look
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at things optimistically, but I intentionally
delude myself, do into taking an optimistic
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view. And it doesn't make any
sense at all. And the goal here
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really is to try to change the
the outcome of self fulfilling prophecy. That's
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that's the way that I think about
it. So when you're negative, you
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tend to to negatively influence the future
and when you're positive, you you tend
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to positively influent influence the future,
and so and sometimes it may come across
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to other people as is delusion.
Is So ridiculous, that you're being positive
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and that's everything that's going on.
That it. It may seem delusional to
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other people, but the goal is
not so much to care what other people
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are thinking, because the goal is
to change your own psychology. So you've
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got to delude yourself in some sense
so that your your emotion can can be
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positive and create positive energy. And
I'm not really talking here about ignoring the
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facts. I anyone who knows me
knows that I try to be brutally honest
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and never try to evade the reality
of what's happening. But the problem is
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when you take that approach, which
is really important, to not ignore negative
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things that might be happening, when
you take that approach, it can be
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easy to just be dragged down into
the abyss. So this is a technique
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of rewriting reality that I'm actively practicing
and and sometimes, you know, con
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border on self delusion. So that's
where those terms come from. Yeah,
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I got it, and so that's
what I think about what you're saying.
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It's not all that, you know, difficult to get on board with,
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but I do understand this initial push
back, because it's kind of the story
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of my life, right, I'm
good at this. Versus two folks,
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you know, tend to ask like
how is, why is she always so
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happy? Does it? You know, don't things ever happen? Because,
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yeah, like it's off is obnochiesm'm
I been going through this since I was
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like the heart school, and people
do those research to support the fact that
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people do tend to take you list
seriously if you say smile more often.
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JIB leader right now, but there's
also reasons, first, to support the
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fact that they, you know,
maybe respond to you better as well.
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And so this idea, what you
just described, if this virtuous creative cycle
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and the negative destructive cycle, right, that's the sounds like. That's what
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you're describing, right, the thinking
of taking the the negative things and sort
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of putting them where they belong and
then taking the positive things that happen the
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foresight to understand that, if they're
not the condition now, they will be,
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because the question is, if you
not doing that, what's the alternative?
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Yeah, right, the alternative is
just to get dragged down, and
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I mean and the real, the
real challenges that negative emotions really don't mean
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anything. Negative emotions are simply a
reaction to what we're thinking, and so
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if we change our thinking, the
emotions can turn around and that can help
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give the energy that creates that that
creative, virtuous cycle rather than the destructive
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cycle. I mean, I think
about you know, let's say we lose
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a big deal, an important deal
with the customer, potential customer, and
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we might be saying, Oh man, I just I lost that deal.
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We aren't doing so great this quarter, we might not make our target.
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Then what? And that'll get us
down and discouraged and and so this leads
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to more negative emotions and those negative
emotions cause us to perform poorly on the
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next sales call rather than in a
productive way, and it could influence another
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deal to get lost. And so
our negative emotions are not harmless. They
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are they're actually, of course,
we all know, harmful to our own
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bodies, our own wellbeing, but
they're also harmful to our own performance,
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and not only our performance as an
individual, but especially when we're in leadership
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positions. Everybody takes the tone from
what we're doing. And you know,
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I've in our start and consensus we've
gone through a lot of different changes because
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we started selling into mostly marketers of
small business and over the journey of the
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last five years we've we've gone through
so many pivots and have finally found our
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key target which are pre sales teams
and enterprise software companies. And but going
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through all those changes required a lot
of change. It required sometimes letting people
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go, sometimes in mass and layoffs
when cash flow is terrible and you know,
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being a survivor is the number one
thing you have to do. And
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startups because you you can't. It's
really about how many learning cycles you can
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go through before you find the right
mix of positioning, messaging, pricing,
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packaging, features and benefits, you
know, all of that, in the
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right market. And so it's very
rare that start up on trepreneurs just headed
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out of the park right off the
bat. It happens. We all like
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to glorify those who do it,
but more often than not, the ones
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that succeed are the ones that are
willing to, you know, chew that
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glass that Elon Musk was talking about, and eventually it turns into something good.
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And so this is just a technique
where, instead of focusing on the
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the negative, you focus on on
what's positive and it's more than being just
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optimistic. It's really asking the question. So that this question came from a
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book called the Charisma Myth by Olivia
Fox. I'm not sure how you say
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her name, cabin cabin. It's
a really interesting book and this is where
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I first came across the term rewriting
reality. And she suggests you read this
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or ask this question. How does
what's happening are right now? How is
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this going to work out perfectly for
me? And she gives us example in
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her book about how she was going
to make this big presentation. She was
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nervous, it was going to mean
everything and she was so filled with this
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fear that she was going to fail
that she was just in the pit of
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this despair before she was doing this
presentation in the hotel that night. So
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she decided to rewrite the reality and
she imagined in her mind how it was
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going to go. And even though
there were a lot of indicators that are
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already there were, there're certain leading
indicators that it wasn't going to go well,
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which was what was making her nervous. She she imagined that she was
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going to be dynamic and her presentation, that she was going to remember everything
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she needed to, that she that
the people were going to respond a certain
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way and completely changed her own ability
to to perform. And it kind of
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reminded me of the way you hear
athletes sort of imagining right before they perform,
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right actually all the details and and
indeed that situation turned around for her
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and actually turned out to be the
perfect experience that she needed. And she's
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not advocating, and or am I
that, you know, taking a pollyanna
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under glasses, always have full attitude, is going to change everything all the
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time, but it sets you up
to to have a better chance at it,
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so your odds are much better and, of course, it's more enjoyable.
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None of us like to carry around
negative feelings all the time. Yeah,
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and it's actually it's a show of
strength and you know, the type
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of discipline and self control that the
leaders need. Here's what I mean,
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right, because we know that everybody
experience these negative emotions, like you've been
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talking about. The want the folks
who rise as leaders and who are more
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better assets to their teams are the
ones who have control of room. The
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case in point. I I was
on a sales team and the SVP of
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sales is a person who's mentored me
for a long time ago, I really
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look up to. was having lunch
with myself and a few other sales reps
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and at the time this exchange I
wondered I would have why was he so
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short with this gentleman. The young
woman was just sitting there at lunch.
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She goes, she goes, uh, I'm so tired and he, before
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she could finish her sentence, almost
goes, how does that contribute to the
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people around you now? What does
that even you know, how does that
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help anybody? And I was just
like wow, me he this guy,
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guy has reputation of being like he
makes sales people ride type guy. But,
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but, but, yeah, and
so at the time I was just
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like why did why that happened?
But the more I thought of it,
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I understood he's probably more tired than
all of us. I happen to know
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he wakes up at like four am
every day. I happen to know he
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didn't usually leave the office into like
six after to know that he you know,
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I'm he's a hard working person,
a lot of most folks, who
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all folks and leadership are. And
what he was really getting at is sverbalizing
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that giving more life and attention and
energy to how tired you are. Not
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only is it not good for you, but it's not good for your team.
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And he has such a grasp of
that that what I was seeing was
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it's you're right, it's not as
definitely not pollyanna. This is like this
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dude. It's serious about strategy,
right strategy. This is something that he's
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been actively, you know, applying
to his lifestyle and the way that he
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does business for a result, and
he's getting a return on it. So
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when you think of it in those
terms, you're less likely to be resistant
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to it as oh, that's not
my personality type. And because you're right,
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I'm, like I've shared at the
beginning. When folks see me,
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what's what I would say, overcoming. That's what it is, just out
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here overcoming as I'm called to do. Right they are, they said the
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return on investment. I think that's
that's a big key, because the really
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what you put into it as an
effort is is going to come back in
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spades. and to some of us, I'm not naturally you know, I'm
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not like Mary poppins, who has
a naturally cheerful disposition. And and so
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I may have to work at this
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I've found is as I put effort
into it, it comes back in huge
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ways, both personally and as a
leader. And you know, it's as
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I think about how this, how
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leaders where I've seen this, this
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historical figures as well. I mean one
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example is is Steve Jobs Right,
the famous reality distortion field. Well,
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that wasn't always didn't always come across
as positive, and yet it yielded positive
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results, perhaps better results than anyone
else has ever accomplished in business. And
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and yet he he persistently refused to
accept the current facts and would shape his
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view of how the future was going
to be the way he wanted it.
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that's why they came up with this
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But he was so good at doing
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always full of positive energy. You
know, he wasn't necessarily, but he
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did try to take the facts and
rewrite them to fit his his potential goals
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and that worked out more often than
not for him. Yeah, I was
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going to ask you about that if
he had any any examples of, you
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know, folks who got that right, and I think that that that example
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you gave is a really strong one, because I don't think that there's anyone
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out there who would, who would
paint see jobs as paully Anna exactly well.
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personal experience. I had leslie stretched. He's the CEO of Medalia now,
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is former CEO of Caldas cloud.
That sold the SAP earlier this year for
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two point eight billion dollars and they
acquired my last company, Caldas cloud did,
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and I worked with Leslie for about
a year and I decided to leave
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and start another company, which is
why I'm running this company now. And
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he said something really interesting. He
was kind of bummed. He tried really
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hard to keep me on a team, but then he said, you know
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what, this is difficult, but
I've been through so much adversity and I've
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always been able to handle it.
We're going to be fine, this is
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all going to work out, and
I mean he said it verbally right,
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while we were in the middle of
of I basically was telling him, I'm
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sorry, after all the efforts you've
made, I'm still leaving. And and
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he is a CEO that, I
think, while again, I wouldn't say,
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as always, you know, a
positive personality. He is able to
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take difficult circumstances and and just restate
how it's going to be. And I
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saw it happened, you know,
real time right there. And you know,
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another one that I that I'd like
to mention, and I hope it
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doesn't get too personal, but I'm
a member of the Church of Jesus Christ,
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a Latter Day saints, and the
founder. His name was Joseph Smith,
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and anyone who's into history sometimes,
yeah, of a bad rap,
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but the one thing that I want
to emphasize is that he was also really
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good at this skill. I mean, the man was in prison for nine
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months in a jail cell that he
couldn't even stand up in all the way.
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It was too short, and he
was stuck there for nine months.
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He eventually was murdered by a mob, you know. So this is life.
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Was Not easy by any stretch of
the imagination. But here's an example
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of what he said in the midst
of all this going on, he said,
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and this you know says in middle
s, so the language kind of
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comes from there. He said courage, brethren, and on onto the victory.
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Let your hearts rejoice and be exceedingly
glad. You know, I'm thinking
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one that's not really my moo of
the way I speak to my team,
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but the fact that he could even
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all these difficulties, extreme difficulties,
is something that I've always been really impressed
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with. Yeah, for sure.
Another another really good example of you know
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what you called it there. I
go on to key in on that.
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you called it a skill. It's
absolutely that and I think that that's what
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that what's at the heart of this
conversation, is that we are not so.
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For the longest time, and it's
still the case, I've had the
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phrase relentlessly optimistic on my on my
resume. Subscribe myself as under the traits
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part. Yeah, and it's important
to me to not have the one without
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the other, because for just like
what you're talking about, I think that
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the optimism, maybe some is something
that we, you know, our childhood
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or just our our spirit. Who
will how we're born sort of has a
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lot of influence on. But the
relentless part is the part that we that
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we build as a spork. Yeah, right, Yep, that's that's the
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part that you that you work on, and and I think for leaders,
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especially for the reasons that you've done
a really good job of outlining here,
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it's super important to keep that in
mind. So thanks so much for laying
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that out the way that you did
and given such really good examples of what
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that looks like and making the case, the case for rewriting reality and engaging
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in intentional selfdelusion. So now that
I've successfully picked a brain and thing what
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I could get out of it,
it's time for you to tell us about
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what you are putting in it.
So let us know about of thing that
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you've been engaging with that is informing
your approach. Or this just got you
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excited these days? Yeah, you
know, one thing that I'm super interested
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in right now and have been diving
into deeply the last couple of years is
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what's called buyer enablement, and I'm
actually just finishing up a book on it
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and for Right now, I think
we're just finalizing the title. I think
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the book's going to be called selling
is easy. Buying as hard. Yeah,
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and and it should be out early
next year. But by our enablements
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all about how you facilitate and enable
the different stakeholders in that buying group that
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you talked about at the beginning of
the conversation. And what I've found through
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experimentation and research, and Gartner and
some of the other analyst firms really into
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this as well, is that buyers
are spending less and less time with us
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as vendors, and so being able
to enable them and equip them with the
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things they need to be effective at
making the decision, selling for you internally
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and things like that. Those are
are some of the strategies that I've been
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not only thinking about but trying to
put into practice and writing about lately.
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So by our enablement, I think, is is really the only true skill
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in sales, because sales people.
As sales people, we can't close deals.
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I hear people say this all the
time. I can close deals,
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he's the closer, and I'm saying
really, did you sign the contract?
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No, and you know, I
understand what they're saying. You know,
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some people are better at helping the
buyers than others and they are cut and
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we call them closers, but the
reality is none of us can close a
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deal, only the buyers can,
and so inasmuch as we can facilitate that
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group, that is that is the
entirety of BTB sales. So that's now.
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It's all a say on it for
now to go. Know, you're
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you're pretty to the choir. I
think. You know, the those of
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us look into the future are quickly
moving as sales people from, you know,
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figuring out how we can be better
persuaders or be more persuasive, in
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figuring out how we can be better
enablers and these connectors. Yeah, right,
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I think that that does start with
being able to develop a better skill
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as an influencer. But the distinction
between the you know, being having influence
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and being persuasive is super important here, and so I'd like the way that
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you that you talk about that.
I think that that's the direction into going,
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hopefully, because, you know what, it's one of those things that
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be to C has been getting right
for a long time, right, they've
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been moving things out of our way
as consumers for so long. Yeah,
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and we're only just now starting to
really crack that open in terms of be
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Toc and I think that we haven't
seen, you know, we've only seen
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the tip of the iceberg in terms
of what we're going to have to start
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to do to keep up with this
expectation. Shouldn't folks have to have as
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frictionalist and experience when they're dealing with, you know, a consumer brand as
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they are when they're dealing with the
a BB brand? So I'm glad you
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brought that little tip bit up.
That's a whole other podcast episode that I
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can have you on for. Thanks
for that listen. I know that you
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know everybody, just like me who's
listening is has become a fast fan of
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yours. They're going to want to
keep up with you. So tell a
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folks, tell us how we can
connect with you. Yeah, yeah,
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I mean you can reach me,
you know, by email at Garen at
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go consensuscom. You can reach me
a through twitter at Garen underscore hess,
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either of those, and of course
you can look me up on Linkedin as
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well. I would love to connect
with any of you. It's just been
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a pleasure speaking with you, Nikki, and I love talking about leadership,
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positive psychology, any of those kinds
of things that, of course, fire
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enablement and BTB sales close to my
heart as well, so love to connect
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